Faith Infiltration: Jubilee Church
A few weeks ago, Flimsy and I accompanied some other local St. Louis bloggers to The Jubilee Church. Jubilee was running a series of sermons on S.E.X., so of course we had to check it out. We heard about Jubilee via several billboards in the St. Louis area featuring the words, "XXXPOSED CHURCH." The accompanying website explained that, "Contrary to popular opinion, God is not against sex—He's 100% for it! He created sex and meant for us to enjoy it. He even gave us special instructions that will maximize our enjoyment if followed, but if ignored will produce pain and hurt. This is why we have decided to set aside four weeks in our sermon calendar to address the topic of sex."
Woohoo! How could we pass this kind of thing up?
Jubilee Church (which is part of the Newfrontiers movement) is set inside a rather Spanish looking building, complete with a Spanish tile roof and stucco walls. Though the building seemed rather large, the sanctuary was surprisingly small and intimate. My guess is that it tightly held about 200 people. The congregation consisted of a racially-mixed group, most of which were around their 30's. The sanctuary had a very auditorium-like feel to it, having a center stage and bland walls that lacked any kind of religious décor or pictures on the walls.
Someone stood at the front of the stage and told everyone – as the music began - to remember that they can't do anything of their own power and can only accomplish things through Jesus by being born again. He also told the audience to open their hearts to the message and to be "set free in your thinking."
The worship team performed this song, which causes the hairs to stand on my neck even though I am not a believer. If I were a Christian I would totally be into this:
While the song went on, people lifted their hands up and held them there, singing along. It was then that I noticed a very young sign language interpreter at the front, interpreting to what appeared to be one person, who nodded along. The song ended, and a video was launched. The video (parts of which can be found here) featured the PG-13 warning before diving into scenes of St. Louisans being interviewed about sex. The interviewer asked people questions like, "Have you ever been hurt by a sexual relationship?" and people answered. Most people told stories of having negative experiences with sexual relationships. The video ended, and the sermon began.
The pastor opened by telling everyone that god is a fan of sex – in face he is The Fan of sex, because he invented it. "Culture," he said, "assumes god is a killjoy – that Christians are sexual prudes, or Ned Flanders, or judgmental." The implication, obviously, is that "culture" is wrong – Christians aren't prudes, like Ned Flanders, or judgmental.
God, the pastor explained, wants sex to occur within certain constraints: within the "blood covenant" of marriage and as the act of two souls becoming "one flesh." If you're doing it right, your marriage will be one in which companionship, passion and intimacy occurs. When we go outside this ideal, "little foxes" come in and ruin the vineyard that is a marriage. Marriage is hard – said the pastor – because a good relationship is hard to maintain, the devil hates everything that god loves, and so the devil will attempt to distort everything to keep people from experiencing god. Because life starts with and ends with a marriage (to god), god loves marriage, and the devil hates all the things god loves, the devil is obviously going to try to destroy your marriage.
Personally, I don't see any evidence that the devil is mucking things up. Instead, a lot of what I see (and even Christians agree…) is that marriage fails due to these things: lack of honesty, lack of communication, lack of intimacy, lack of trust, and jumping into marriage too early in a relationship, inappropriate expectations, etc.
Apparently last week the Pastor addressed all of the bad things that men do to muck up a marriage, and so this week he focused on the ladies. He started out by saying that ladies should not be selfish with intimacy. If a lady pretends to "have a headache" (obviously, what he meant is when women don't really feel like having sex, so they make up an excuse not to) she is being self-centered, and she needs to learn to serve and think of one-another. The Pastor explained that he was not advocating that a woman be treated like a piece of meat, just that withholding oneself for selfish reasons is one of these "foxes" he was talking about.
The problem I see with this scenario is dishonesty and lack of understanding. Most people enter into marriages with the expectation that their sexual needs will be met. If one partner is not meeting the needs of another partner, this is obviously a problem, and it is also a problem if she is not honest about why she is not meeting those needs. There are better ways to solve this than to say, "quit being selfish", though. For example: he could masturbate. He could watch porn. He and she could agree on an open relationship. He and she could work on spicing up their sex lives. They could work on issues coming between them and sex. There are a multitude of things a couple could do in this situation, so much that I could probably start a whole new blog and write about just this issue. But the pastor chose to solve it in a different way:
Instead of talking through good ways to solve a problem like this, the pastor resorted to guilt: if you selfishly withhold sex and leave your husband sexually unfulfilled, he'll probably turn to porn because men "either fight or just quit." Specifically, the pastor cautioned that, "if you refuse your husband, you are training him to quit on you."
Enter discussion about porn.
The pastor threw out a bunch of rather interesting statistic about porn at this point:
- It's a 14 billion dollar industry. (It's probably more like a 4 billion dollar industry according to Forbes.com and The Scientist and pro-porn group the Free Speech Coalition.)
- 11 thousand porn films are made a year. (This number seems actually accurate!)
- There are 22 times as many porn video releases as there are movie releases. (okay, that's probably true, but each porn title sells many less copies than a movie release)
- There are more porn stores in America than Mcdonalds. (Are you kidding me? Citation needed! The only one I could find that even remotely came close was this college newspaper citing that there are more strip clubs than McDonalds. Or maybe this website saying there are more strip clubs in Tampa than McDonalds. This statistic appears to have been invented by the National Coalition in an unfindable document titled, "Pornography's Relationship to Sexual Violence and Exploitation." There are 13,383 MickeyD's in the USA. Since pornography stores are not franchised, it is difficult to pin down statistics on how many there are and it looks like no one has really done it, so I am confident in saying this number was pulled out of thin air for shock value. Maybe if you combined all porn stores, strip clubs, video stores that had an "adult movie" section, any store that sold sex toys or lingerie, you might have 13,383.)
- 14% of men are addicted to porn, and 6% of women are addicted to porn. ("pornography addiction" is not found in the DSM and thus is not accepted by mainstream psychology as a disorder. Thus, it has no widely accepted "diagnostic criteria." For example in a survey conducted by Christian net of its readership, "porn addiction" was diagnosed by an affirmative answer to this question, "do you struggle with looking at pornography on an ongoing basis?" They concluded that 60% of men and 20% of women were addicted to porn.
What's wrong with role-playing, exactly? If two adults in a safe, sane, consensual relationship want to roleplay, who cares? Is porn really that dangerous? How about we look at some unbiased data?
Over the years, many scientists have investigated the link between pornography (considered legal under the First Amendment in the United States unless judged "obscene") and sex crimes and attitudes towards women. And in every region investigated, researchers have found that as pornography has increased in availability, sex crimes have either decreased or not increased.Few studies link the availability of porn to antisocial behavior and sex crimes. Even though the rate of porn use is going up in the US, Denmark, Sweden, and West Germany, the incidence of rape is going down. It is especially going down among people aged 20-34 – those most likely to use the internet and have ready access to porn.
Rapists are more likely than non-rapists to have been punished for looking at porn. Rapists and child molesters use less porn than "normal" males. The only real environmental correlation between sex-offenders is a strict religious upbringing.
That's right. Porn use has a negative correlation between sex offenses and crimes. If you want to reduce the number of sex crimes in a given community, it is better to give people open access to porn than to make people guilty for even thinking about it.
Obviously, anything that has the potential to be used has the potential to be abused, but it makes little sense to find people who self-describe as being addicted to porn, and then extrapolate that information to claim that porn is addictive. I could probably locate 100 people who are addicted to corned beef and ask them how this addiction has affected their lives and extrapolate that corned beef is addictive.
The pastor mentioned Ted Bundy. Okay, so Ted Bundy liked to look at porn. It's disingenuous to take the actions of one sociopathic serial killer, point fingers at a single aspect of his life (he was also active in his church…) and then blame that aspect of his life for his actions unless it is obvious that there is a clear correlation. Most of the link of Ted Bundy to pornography is due to an interview that he had with James Dobson (of Focus on the Family) before he was executed.
If Jubilee church really wanted to be "not Ted Flanders" they would look objectively at pornography statistics. Instead, they believe porn is wrong and evil, and so pick and choose their information to fit in with their preconceived notions. Given the reality of pornography, this can only hurt society rather than help it. That would be the moral thing to do.
Okay! This blog post has gotten long enough. Tune in for part II later this week.
Labels: atheism, blasphemy, faith infiltration, fallacies, morality


